oki so im rlly stressed out rn cuz somthing happened so uh forwarning if you don't agree with stuff on the lgbtq topic and it upsets u, u should probley step outta here, srry m8 /w\ also kinda a serious topic so yeah
























ok so a long story short my pops is a pastor and like I love him and all he's not horable or abusive or anything but dissigres with my tendicy to "like" other girls. Iv been dating my gf for over a year now and its smooth saling and awesome. we are that couple that dose the whole "no you hang u" and the "no i love u more" routines. shes grate i rlly love her but shes closeted, her fam is not happy with "us people" u know? shes scared they might do something cruel if they found out right? so I worry like anyone would right? most of the time when I talk to/about her I either don't use her name or vague nicknames. But recently discord has been banned on my computer so I make a shared google document and it had her real name on it because I'm a stupid fool. my dad saw it and asked some questions. he yelled a little and I just don't know what to do and mabey this is a stupid thing to ask a bunch of random people on the internet about? but I'm quarenteened so cant get advice from friends and I just cant thing it out and ugHuHH what if he tells mom who will then tell her mom who then might beat her??? like iiiwiii I'm so worried and lowkey scared? idk what type of help I'm even asking 4 I just hhhhhhhhhh someone senfd help plz i ned advIcE

@Pio, I'm really sorry that you're experiencing this. It's sad to hear that there are parents out there that are still living in the dark ages.

- If you're worried about your gf's safety, your parents need to know right away that you believe her parents might harm her. If they're decent human beings, they won't notify your gf's parents about their discovery.

- I know it's not the same as an instant messenger, but if you need a different method to talk to your gf online, you could use the private message system here (or any site with a private message system). And so your parents don't discover it again, I'd recommend logging out whenever you're done talking to each other, and don't save your login info on the browser.

Edit: Not sure if you and your gf have Deviantart accounts, but I just remembered they have a newish chat system there, so that's another option.

Yeah! Just like @spicefinch said don't let yourself down. And maybe when you are ready to tell your parents tell them to keep it a secret. If your parents know maybe you will feel better. And @BK47 is right, it really sad when people live in the dark ages. And liking girls myself i know how you feel.
Either way everyone should except that you like girls

@pio

If you're going to talk to your parents soon, another thing that might help your case is appealing to their sense of parenting. Assuming that they want to be good parents, then they'll want you to approach them with all of your problems, rather than asking strangers on the internet for help. So you could say something like, "I love you guys, and I want to be open with you, but in order for that to happen, I have to feel emotionally safe with you. And that means I need to feel accepted. But as long as I don't feel accepted, I'll always look for help that doesn't involve you. Because this situation will have taught me that I can't go to you for everything." Of course, they might come back and say something like, "Well, you wouldn't need to be secretive if you weren't doing something wrong." If they do say something along these lines, it's just gonna lead straight to an argument and more yelling, so I would just try to de-escalate it by saying something like "If I am doing something wrong, this isn't going to be fixed by arguing or punishment. All that will do is put distance between us." And keep insisting that as long as they're disapproving about your orientation, it'll just hurt your relationship with them.

I know that this is all easier said than done, so I wish you the best of luck >_<

Yeah I think that @BK47 and @spicefinch as well as @frostywolves is right, take it slowly and i know that it will be hard and follow BK47s advice and explain it the whole story. Im sorry you had to come to the pixpet community(I feel like it would be a last resort, but it DOES help to be annonomus) but we are all here to be nice and help
And don't forget to mention how nice your gf is, that might help